Attention Seeking

Attention Seeking

Children need attention like a plant needs sun and water. – Rudolf Dreikus Children are really skilled at finding ways to get adults to pay attention to them. Some of their ways are cute, like cuddles and hugs and smiles and jokes. Others, not so welcome; like...
I’m Bored!

I’m Bored!

Despite a dizzying array of toys and gadgets, resources and equipment, our children still come forward with the pronouncement that they’re bored (usually delivered in a pleading, whiney, sad voice). And of course, they want us to ‘fix’ it. Now, there are plenty of...
Understanding Whining

Understanding Whining

When children whine they are feeling powerless. If we scold them for whining or refuse to listen to them we increase their feelings of powerlessness. If we give in so they will stop whining, we reward that powerlessness. But if we relaxedly, playfully, invite them to...
Is Santa Real?

Is Santa Real?

You know it’s going to happen one day. Your child is going to ask you about Santa. Of course, your two-year-old is probably not going to wander up to you and ask point-blank if Santa Claus is real. But as they get older, they’ll start to ask a lot of questions about...
Understanding Tantrums

Understanding Tantrums

Toddler tantrums are a particularly challenging aspect of parenting. It’s easy to feel like a good parent when our toddlers are smiling and at ease, but it’s a different story when they are lying on the floor kicking and screaming. It helps then, to remind ourselves...
Call It Toilet Readiness…

Call It Toilet Readiness…

Not toilet ‘training’. ‘Training’ suggests a proactive process that can be speeded up with energy and effort. It’s not. Children have to be ready, first. They have to be ready physically (they must have bladder and bowel capacity and muscle control), cognitively (they...